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“She’s Just Not That Into You”: The Playdate Brush-Off and How to Cope

Disclaimer: Non moms, you will not be interested in this post for the most part. Okay, all you moms of small kids, working at an office, working at home, whomever and wherever understand the importance of PLAYDATES. ‘Let’s keep those little #*?!ers busy!’ I love my delicious little kiddies, but, oh!-so-hard to stay in front of my teensy activities carnivors. So, I was feeling the brush off from a recent playdate mom. She just, well, didn’t seem that into me. But, it’s not me..is it? It’s my kid..which is even worse! Would it be better if she said, ‘We need a little break from your son’s master-of-destruction routine.’ Ummm…probably not. So begins the awkward email silence. Two ways out of this:

1. Wait and re-approach. Unlike adults in the dating world where when it’s over, it’s over. With kids, there is always another chance. They are changing from Batman-costume-wearing, harassing-their-sister, destructive little people to Spiderman-costume-wearing, harassing-their-sister, gentler little people. It may be for a short time, but it does happen, and then it could be time to re-approach.

2. You’re Fired! However, you could always – as I have done in the past – fire a playdate. Who needs MORE neurotic parents in their lives? Not me. And, unless you have some seriously unresolved issues, not you either. There are other fish in the sea.

Now please excuse me while I put on safety goggles and head out back with my son to bash some bricks into little pieces.

Deep Thoughts: Isn’t it refreshing to think that maybe…we’re NOT the problem?